How To Less Detach in Stuff
Finding happiness beyond material possessions
Hi friends,
Enjoy your time off, and have a happy weekend!
Because currently fasting, I think this is the right time to declutter. Why?
Because ahead of Eid al-Fitr, many people are crazy shopping so they can look new. And I believe it also happens at other big celebrations like Christmas, Chinese new year, and othersSometimeses decluttering is challenging, especially for people who get attached so deeply to what they have.
I’ve been there, too, before I discovered the Mary Condo concept in college.
But the other challenge is it’s hard to declutter calmly when my mom sees what I’m sorting.
There will always be items that he keeps and feels he will need in the future. Because of this, sometimes, my mission failed.
So, I break down some points that may help you to disconnect from your stuff.
They are just things.
I started to realize all pieces of stuff around me were just inanimate objects to complete my life. And they are replaceable.
What I have and wear doesn’t represent me as a human. But they all are tools to help me do my work.
Identify your trigger
I experienced keeping so many items in my room because every time I see a thing, I always imagine the history behind it.
And the most difficult are items that are gifts from other people I care about.
I used to feel that caring for their goods was a form of respect for them. This is not wrong, but if these items can be more beneficial for other people, I think keeping them is a form of selfishness.
Value your stuff based on the function.
I started valuing things based on their function. Therefore I will mindfully avoid buying things that only bind me emotionally, but the process doesn’t mean anything.
Applying this minimalist principle also slowly makes people around me understand. So they will prefer to give gifts that I can use instead of those just for display.
The power of letting go
Letting go of stuff or people will be hard at first but bring relief afterward. Don’t immediately throw away all the items; for example, keep 30.
No, you don’t have to. But start from the thing that you detach the most. Try to find out which items you haven’t used in the past year, and there’s no possibility you’ll need them for the next year either.
After that, you will feel how having a little one gives you more space.
You can save time choosing clothes, shorten cleaning time and have a fresh look with fewer items.
However, learning to detach from our possessions can be challenging but rewarding.
Try to be mindful of your thoughts and emotions, declutter your space regularly, focus on experiences and relationships instead of just things, and take time each day to appreciate what you have.
It won’t happen overnight, but with a little effort, you can learn to let go of the emotional hold that your possessions have on you and live a happier, more fulfilling life.
Happy Weekend.
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Yuni